Chill

I love Jennifer Lawrence, there I said it.

Everywhere I turn the Hunger Games girl haunts me. With Hunger Games Catching Fire out in Indian theatres I’m having my wish fulfilled further. She is there on hoardings, promos, video interviews, magazines, blogs…you name it and she is there. And the more I see or read about her, the more I can’t get enough. Of course Tarun Tejpal haunts me even more but I have had enough.

If he was famous earlier he is notorious now, and I’m sure the Grand Hyatt in Goa has never had more visitors than now.

Not only did the man have the audacity to molest but he had the temerity to say he read the wrong signals leading to a spate of very poor PJs texted on WhatsApp and what-have-you. Meanwhile, the fiery journalist stands her ground and actually has the balls to get the man arrested. Standing ovation to her, now move on…

NDTV has given me nauseous coverage from the time the dangblasted man landed at Goa, turning his head, lifting a leg (ostensibly to walk another step and not pee), snarling poses, denial….you get the drift. Well so have all the other news channels. I know more about Tejpal than I do my own father, and that is saying a lot. Thank you very much I’m not interested.

I worked as a journalist, and attended after-hour parties, happy hours evening conferences, press junkets, outtatowners came in too and everyone had a good time since these were hours where high-on-testerones jagged-edge men journalists (?!) thought any PYT was lame game. You just smiled and moved on….

In the bright light of the morning sun, everything was hunky dorey again where you no longer were the sitting-duck PYT but a journo again (if you are lucky that is) and you moved on….

Of course there weren’t any lift incidents though enough lifts were offered..

Such is life.

Meanwhile, Jennifer Lawrence outclasses everybody around her in the Chill quotient, no I mean the Cool quotient. Catch her give 70-something Jack Nicholson the sassy brushoff and my love for the girl just goes a notch higher. Watch any of her interviews and you learn how to handle celebrity fame, ribald comments and what-have-you with charm that takes the edge of her pithy remarks and expressions that would have the Marx Bros make her the leading lady in all their movies.

Life lessons:

Don’t get into lifts with hoary old men

When hoary old men attack you or attempt to turn on the charm offensive

If all else fails you always have the pepper spray, which I’m told is cheaper than a pair of undies these days…..

 

 

 

Abuse of Power – II

Torn between writing about OTHER side of Ghetu’s coin and a post on OPTIMAL use of SM. Just hope I’m not going to hotchpotch as I set about writing both in one sitting.

Ghetu’s comment on the other side of the coin had me ponder. Yes, education has empowered the girl child at least in urban areas – Tier I and II towns and cities and what have you.

BUT, I also know of quite a few girls from so-called small towns like Meerut, Jamshedpur, Chipurpalli and Aska (for those unaware as was I, the last two are in Andhra Pradesh and Orissa in that order) who would give any metro-brought up girl a run for her Scooty!!

Bold and fiery, these girls have moved away from home and (familiar) habitat to make a life for themselves in alien surroundings bereft of familiar faces and fond memories. Most of them haven’t returned home permanently preferring to marry ‘broad-minded” boys they have met either through a matrimonial site or elsewhere, while some others have continued to pursue their career, interests, freedom and whatever they choose to do.

So what does it tell us? Education and Financial Freedom empowers women and makes them independent. Unfortunately in a few cases, such as those Ghetu inferred to: this also leads to Aggressive feminism when chivalry is misconstrued and a Helping Hand ripped off. Thankfully, these are but a few cases. Women do have a fine sense of balance, what say?!!

And what about those instances when there is ABUSE of POWER. At times when you are having to stay back at work or college or tuitions much later than the usual time. Felt wary asking yourself why?

  1. Ever felt wary at having to deal with a superior or peer who was lil’ too familiar for comfort?
  2. Who probably leaned into you or on to you on the pretext of showing a diagram or explain a presentation better?
  3. Who made personal remarks about you, your sense of dressing or the beard you sport?
  4. Who insinuated that you were an object to be leched at and not work/study?
  5. Whose gaze started with your boobs and ended there?
  6. Who prompted you to keep books as a clothing accessory?
  7. Who gave you a sinking feeling in the stomach at the mere thought or sight of him/her?
  8. Who did not know and refused to understand NO meant NO, and was not an invitation to repeat innuendos for dinners, lunches, breakfasts, anything at all!!!!!

Worse, I thought such type of men; yes they are a TYPE – the slug type- you find in dark, smelly corners existed and I personally did not have any in my circle, until someone decided to ‘fess up. Unrequited love had for a while turned this person into one of those DARRanak characters who did not understand NO. Fortunately, good sense prevailed and though turned a Gloomy gus the DARR isn’t there anymore!!