With every passing year I find stereotypes increasing rather than decreasing, this in the time of globalisation and homogenisation seems ridiculous. A funny post that went viral since it appeared on Buzzfeed brought this thought to fore and what tickled my funny bone is this ‘
26 Questions People From India Are Sick Of Answering.’
Seriously, coming from a nation that thrives on conforming to stereotypes (I’m sure quite a few brickbats are already aimed my way) this was funny to say the least.
Attend any social event in India, and here is a list of personal favs that get thrown your way:
1. Where do you work?
2. You married? (if you forgot to tie your hair up or are wearing a harried smile)
3. Why not? (the inevitable follow up)
4. How many kids ? (If the answer to question #2 was yes)
5. Why not? (If the answer to question #4 was No)
6. Do you know….(this will be followed by names of X,Y,Z depending on whether your gender is XX or XY and ‘I can introduce you..’ or “Do you know Dr. X, Y,Z (obviously infertility experts) and both these responses depend on what your answers were to questions #2 and #4).
7. OMG and your parent are ok with it (this if you are married out of caste or to the same gender or have just accepted a job overseas and you are single, female that is or anything else that is out of the normal social norm )
Now if you think this is complicated, read on..
Your barrage of well meaning relatives (definitely not friends) will ensure you never forget to (try and) confirm to the stereotypes set for you.
If you are 35 and above: should be married with children
If you are 30 and above: should be done with education and have a steady, well paying job and not be a stay-at-home dad (let me know if there are others) or if you are still pursuing education and have no clear career goals ahead of you
If you are nearing 30: should show maturity (meaning no bushman look or romping up hills on enfields or legging it out at all nighter rock concerts with just your pals and beer for company)
If you are self-employed: until you can preen that you may very soon be related to the Ambanis or the Birlas better to keep it under the carpet unless you are ready for ‘You know, during my days….(followed by stories of triumph/how-to-do-it-better/how to avoid failures/etc…etc..)’
If you are a woman: should be married but if you are single (shouldn’t be divorced or have live-in boyfriends in either case pretend to live in their version of reality and not yours)
If you are a man or woman with relationship with the same sex or intercaste marraige or inter-religious marraige: well, nothing more to be said about it…
I SNUB YOU, you just broke all the sterotypes
and darlings, more power to you!!!!
P.S: Do share your list of fav’s too