Office Bullies

Ever been in meetings where one person hogs the meeting and it soon becomes a monologue instead of a meaningful discussion

or where you try presenting your views only to be met with sarcasm and barbed comments belittling your ideas and intelligence

or where you go all pepped up to present this great idea which may take the company forward, no guarantees of course, but it just may..and even before you are through with the intro of “Heh I think..” there are a whole bunch of gloomy gusses waiting to water down that great idea or a single person single-handedly injecting vitriol

or your young colleague who has slogged hard at a presentation sees it receiving token acknowledgment

Been in any of these ARGHhhhhhhhhhhh situations, than I bet you know what an office bully is!!!

Surprisingly office bullies don’t have to be your heavyweights – the old has been done that who has become a part of the office furniture it could even be that mild-mannered ever-smiling friend who just likes to get a kick every time he sees a colleague fume or turn red with embarassment. So how does one deal with an office bully???

1st acknowledge the fact there is one, and it isn’t you that is acting like a magnet attracting slug (that slimey greeney thingie under the fridge)

2nd, introspect; analyse the situation; identify what triggers this bullying behaviour

3rd, initiate a dialogue with the bully without getting into a mud-slinging contest to see if you work together, after all that bully may be good at something where you need help (most bullies have low confidence levels and this is their way of giving a boost to their ego)

4th, if the above fails rope in a colleague who could act as a buffer till you come up with an alternate plan

5th, confront the bully. Remember, a bully always backs down when cornered (remember your school playground, well being in a corporate game is almost akin to a playground)

6th, that doesn’t work. SOS help-ur HR personnel or your boss, depending on who is sensible and has their head screwed on right and tight

Finally all else fails get yourself moved to another team or division where you don’t have to face the bully…



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3 thoughts on “Office Bullies

  1. Bullies being “bullies”, no matter what tactic you use, they always resort to their old ways. Even getting the HR involved – does not make any impact especially if the bully is quite high up in the hierarchy.

    This is true in my case. Moving on to another team hardly helps as I have seen my colleagues do. The pain, embarrassment, harassment suffered at the hand of the office bully does not go away and they linger on.

    For a strange reason, the company chooses to look the other way, especially if it feels that finding a replacement for the bully is difficult and it is rather easier to let go the employee. This has happened to my colleagues.

    Become a bully, if you want to deal with one. But….. if the bully turns out to be your boss or your manager….. there is very little one can do 😦

    • @rocksta, i have seen quite a few other instances where the sr mgmt threw the bully out to retain the promising ‘uns. unfortunately, for u and me we never worked in one such personally. like dey say “we shall overcome” …. keep ur chin up buddy!!

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