Ever been in meetings where one person hogs the meeting and it soon becomes a monologue instead of a meaningful discussion
or where you try presenting your views only to be met with sarcasm and barbed comments belittling your ideas and intelligence
or where you go all pepped up to present this great idea which may take the company forward, no guarantees of course, but it just may..and even before you are through with the intro of “Heh I think..” there are a whole bunch of gloomy gusses waiting to water down that great idea or a single person single-handedly injecting vitriol
or your young colleague who has slogged hard at a presentation sees it receiving token acknowledgment
Been in any of these ARGHhhhhhhhhhhh situations, than I bet you know what an office bully is!!!
Surprisingly office bullies don’t have to be your heavyweights – the old has been done that who has become a part of the office furniture it could even be that mild-mannered ever-smiling friend who just likes to get a kick every time he sees a colleague fume or turn red with embarassment. So how does one deal with an office bully???
1st acknowledge the fact there is one, and it isn’t you that is acting like a magnet attracting slug (that slimey greeney thingie under the fridge)
2nd, introspect; analyse the situation; identify what triggers this bullying behaviour
3rd, initiate a dialogue with the bully without getting into a mud-slinging contest to see if you work together, after all that bully may be good at something where you need help (most bullies have low confidence levels and this is their way of giving a boost to their ego)
4th, if the above fails rope in a colleague who could act as a buffer till you come up with an alternate plan
5th, confront the bully. Remember, a bully always backs down when cornered (remember your school playground, well being in a corporate game is almost akin to a playground)
6th, that doesn’t work. SOS help-ur HR personnel or your boss, depending on who is sensible and has their head screwed on right and tight
Finally all else fails get yourself moved to another team or division where you don’t have to face the bully…